Well all my life I've been a very loyal person to my friends (or the ones I thought who were my friends). I guess the best way to deal with this is not to go too far in your loyalty. There's always people who take advantage of that...

Exactly. But my problem is that when I meet somebody who seems nice, I sometimes may be a bit too fast with it.... and start trusting someone too early. And this is what happens.

That's what I mean with not going too far in your loyalty. You have values for yourself that are good, no doubt, but if someone else doesn't have them, those values can be used as a weapon against you. That's why you should be careful when you meet someone nice.

Jelena, I would really like to give you a hug now. I have the same problem with new friends and I know how you feel.

Yeah, I guess we both really need it, thanks. Just to say, another similar situation yesterday... just with another friend. But it wasn't really anything against me, it was unintentionally (is this the correct word?)...kinda. She said some things out loud that she shouldn't. Oh well. I try to bother as little as possible.

Well I'm in the luxury position to have some friends who I can tell like everything. Like last night, I finally got to speak about something that really bothers me for months now. What's better: I got more determined what to do now.

There's also another luxury position I find myself into: I'm male. It may sound a bit funny, but my experience tells me that contact between male persons is way easier and more clear than contact between female persons. Lots of time there's some little unfriendliness involved, even when girls are real good friends. In other words: it's less likely for me to get in this kind of situation than in your cases.

Yes, I know, that's right! In fact, most of the girls like to gossip a lot and they care mostly about themselves, not about the others.
I don't know but I believe that I myself am not among that "most".
Since I'm a female, until now I had mostly female friends. But since I'm in the high school (since last fall), I found out how actually easy and good is to hang out with the boys, and so far I made several really good male friends!

I´m more sad than angry. I try to get a new apprenticeship one year now! I have no future in my learned job and try to make something out of my life....but nobody gives me a chance. I wrote about 60 applications till now and had just one job interview (and they don´t wanted me in the end)!!! I have good scool certificates, very good appraisements of past employers.... Is it the age? When I can´t start a new way this year I get to old for a new apprenticeship. I really don´t know what I should do then. I´m really sad , disenchanted and out of hope at the moment. When I think of it all I feel like crying.

I know the way you feel. Been there done that

Join the club... I graduated in July 2006, I have a Bachelor's degree, and I can't find work. last year I decided to follow another course, finished that one successful, and still can't find a job.... There's always something: too high degree, too low degree, not the right degree, no experience, ...